Get Up Off The Couch Parenting


Marianne Stuart

Sometimes it isn’t convenient being a parent, but convenient or not, there is work involved in raising our children. Years ago my husband, Guy, and I went to a seminar about parenting. The woman talking was raising eight of her own kids. Some were old enough to date and some were still little. We are now in the same boat. Our children are from 14 months to 19 years old. After hearing her talk, we gathered our children and had a meeting with them.


He Picked You

God made us the parents of our children. He picked US to raise them. This is what we told our kids when we had our family meeting the day after our seminar. From now on when we asked a child to do something, we expected it to be done right away.  We call this “Right Away Obedience.”  We don’t give three tries like one popular parenting method calls for. We expect our request to be done the FIRST time. If obedience can be achieved the third time it can happen the first time. How novel.

The picture is from our recent to trip to Rome for my brother's ordination. He was ordained a Catholic priest on Dec. 12. in Rome, Italy. It was an amazing experience! I am so glad we were able to take the kids even though it was a lot of work.

Inconvenience Yourself

We have all been there. We are sitting down enjoying a movie or a conversation and something happens that requires our attention. We can sit and ignore it or get up and handle the situation. I call this “Get Up Off the Couch Parenting.” You might have to pause your movie, ask your friend if you can call them back, or put your coffee down, but good parenting requires us to inconvenience ourselves and put in the work needed for our children to become enjoyable creatures.  

Now Go do Your Job

This parenting technique might involve more than physically getting up to handle our duties. It might mean checking our kids email, phones, texts, social media, and talking with their teachers. We can’t expect others to raise our children for us. God picked us to be their parents, now go do your job.


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2 responses to this post.

  1. LOVE THIS!!!! Excellent.


  2. Amen! I know I can always do better, but its always a pet peeve of mine when I hear parents complaining that teachers, society, others are not doing enough, it is OUR job and if someone isn’t doing enough than we need to fill in the gaps.


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