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Helping Our Children Weather Defeat, Adversity and Disappointment

Lori Vacek

Lori Vacek
Memorial Mommy Blogger

Children will always have opportunity to face difficulty in their lives. And the ways they deal with it are as varied as their personalities, development of coping skills, etc. As a parent, I find I want to make the hurt go away as soon as possible. But no matter how I console them, it really is about giving them time and choices.

Here are a few of the things I have learned in my 30 years of parenting that have helped my children.

  1. Triumph with them even in their defeat. Give them praise for their effort and strength of character to try.
  2. Convey that you love them and are proud of them just for being who they are.
  3. Hug them and reaffirm them with physical affection. Look in their eyes.
  4. Be genuine in your words. Comedy only helps if that is their personality. Otherwise, refrain from making jokes.
  5. Divert their attention to positive solutions or alternatives.
  6. Let them cry and express themselves while not allowing them to get into self-destructive statements or behaviors.

I’m sure you may have some great suggestions as well. But there are just a few of my best to get you started on building happy, healthy children.

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Not a Religion, A Relationship

Tracey Heslip

Tracey Heslip

I’ve been thinking about this month’s blog for the last week. I always pray about what topic I’m going to write about and this is what the Lord has laid on my heart. Here it goes…

There are four mommy bloggers and if you have been following us you have learned a little about us. We are all happily married, we all have children, and we all have faith. We have all shared stories about our families, saving tips, and how we manage our children.  You may think we paint a rosy picture of the perfect housewife and mother, and it may be hard for some of you to take us seriously because of where you are at in your life.

You may be a single mother, or you are in a bad marriage, or perhaps you have teenagers that you find very hard to love. I would like to offer you encouragement. I don’t have all the answers to what you may be going through; however, I would like to tell you that you are not alone. I would say to you, think positive and surround yourself with positive people.  Don’t be afraid to reach out to others that may be able to help you. There are people in the community that would love to help. If you were to ask anyone of us mommy bloggers we would tell you that we draw a lot of our personal strength from our faith. Owosso has a lot of wonderful churches.

I’ve heard people say many times that they don’t want to go to church because of all the hypocrites there. I’m not saying because I believe in God that makes me perfect, far from it. What I am saying is that church gives you a sense of belonging. Churches have outreach programs that may fulfill a need in your family.

Give it a try!!! There may be a lonely grandmotherly lady that would love to adopt a family, or a gentleman who was a “wild child” in his youth that would love to take your teenage son under his wing and show him the error of his ways.

When it seems that you have nowhere else to turn, try church. Find a place where you feel comfortable and at home. The saying in my family is: It’s not a religion, it’s a relationship.

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Disclaimer

The views expressed in the posts and comments of this blog do not necessarily reflect Memorial Healthcare. They should be understood as the personal opinions of the author.

Comment Policy

All readers are encouraged to leave comments. While all points of view are welcome on Memorial Healthcare’s blog, only comments that are courteous and on-topic will be posted. All comments will be reviewed and responded to (as needed) within three business days of submission. Participants on this blog are fully responsible for everything that they submit in their comments, and all posted comments are in the public domain.

Linking Policy

This blog may contain external links to other sites. Memorial Healthcare does not control or guarantee the accuracy, relevance, timeliness, or completeness of information on these Web sites. Links to particular items in hypertext are not intended as endorsements of any views expressed, products, or services offered on outside sites, or the organizations sponsoring those sites.

Meet Our Memorial Healthcare Mommy Bloggers!

Tracey HeslipTracey Heslip
This year I turn 40 and what better way to bench mark this year than writing my own blog. I have been married for 20 years (yes, I married young) to a wonderful man who works for the family auto repair business. We have three teenage daughters (18, 17, and 14) and I am just recently a stay at home mom. There is so much involved with running a household that I have no idea how I did it all AND worked a 55 hour week. Losing my income has forced us look at our budget very closely. I made a decision to be proactive…and with that came coupon clipping, making our own laundry soap, growing a garden and canning whatever we can. We also have many hobbies including: beekeeping, making wine, and raising Australian Sheppard dogs. I love sharing with others the things I have learned over the years. I hope my blog will have a positive effect on people and they find joy in reading it. This life isn’t always easy, but with God’s grace we make it.

Lori VacekLori Vacek
As a 48 year old wife and mother, I have learned to embrace life for what it is, and make the best of every circumstance. My husband, Jim, and I have been married for 30 years and live in Owosso. I am the mother to sons Tony, 30;  Joe, 21; and Wilson, 10; and daughters, Megan, 17, and Carman, 11.

I have endured some difficult times but find it makes me stronger, more compassionate and vulnerably open to others. I love to laugh out loud and try to find humor in everything. I am creative and love good clean fun.

I am an avid collector of Mid-Century Modern furniture and housewares. I love going to estate sales with my husband, who makes our living selling antiques on Ebay. I love decorating, fashion, makeup, planning parties, and most of all helping people.

I approach this mommy blog with the anticipation of growing personally as well as helping others grow. My deepest desire is to give the world beautiful people through my children. I am already seeing the results. And my heart is satisfied.

Marianne StuartMarianne Stuart
My name is Marianne Stuart and I am a happy wife at home mothering eight children.  I have been married for 20 years, and just in time for our 19th anniversary we welcomed our 8th baby.  I am sure my husband, Guy, didn’t know he was signing on for that when he married me!

Our children range in age from 19 years to 9 months. We have been homeschooling for 8 years, since St. Joseph Catholic School closed.  Emily, our oldest, will be entering college in the fall. Molly, 17,will be a senior and wants to go Culinary Arts School. Therese is 15 and looking into dual enrollment in high school and college and will be taking a few classes at Owosso High School. This will be our first experience with the public school system. Fingers crossed. Guy, 13, thinks I expect far too much from him academically and will be attending St. Paul Catholic School to get a taste of the real world. Grace, 11, is my little mother and has enjoyed earning big bucks babysitting her littlest brother while I run around town. Maria, 9, is my social butterfly and spends her days emailing, proudly announcing how many minutes she has been on the phone and playing with friends. Richard, 5, spends his days biking on the sidewalk racing the cars that go by. Lastly, maybe, is Andrew.  Andrew is 9 months old and such a joyful little baby and has just started mastering baby signing.  He has “more,” “food,” “nurse” and “goodbye” under his belt.

I live in downtown Owosso, although I grew up in the country.  I am embracing what city life has to offer, like walks to the Cone Zone,  the library and Saturday trips to the Farmers’ Market — I just love walking.

I am a wife and a mom but I don’t think there is anything I could be doing that is more important. My favorite places to be if I am not at home are at St. Paul Catholic Church or on a date with my adored husband, Guy.